The Abuse of Forgiveness: Manipulation and Harm in the Name of Emotional Healing Paperback – July 18, 2017

Helpful book. I loved the way she discusses forgiveness in Christianity and Islam.Basically victims should not be expected to forgive their attacker in order to be "whole" again.She is right on that. This is not Christianity either. You can not forgive the unrepentant.Best thing is to forget about it and move on.

It's a tough read- meaning it took me a while to understand the author's position. But then I got it.Be ready for an emotional ride!

Assalaam alaykum I read this book and it was wonderful and very enlightening. I do recommend this book.

book arrived on time and is exactly as described

This book, The Abuse of Forgiveness, describes the beauty of true forgiveness, which involves patience, gratefulness, and trust in God, to say the least. What is the relationship between healing and forgiveness? To heal, we must be heard. “Forgiveness is not required before healing can take place, and though healing certainly makes forgiveness easier, healing is not required before forgiveness can take place,” according to Sister Umm Zakiyyah.Qur’an 42:37-38 encourages us to forgive even when we’re angry.God loves forgiveness, but temper that with the fact that God loves justice. In these tumultuous times when many people blame the victim, we must create spaces free from toxicity and filled with authenticity.The author, Umm Zakiyyah, even describes her history of suicidal ideation. May her words illuminate our hearts, and may we not force forgiveness on anyone. If you are feeling like your life has to end, please reach out to someone or call the suicide hotline and let them talk you off the ledge. Your life is beautiful and meaningful! Only you can live it! Be your unique self and love yourself for who you are. You’re a treasure! You are precious and valued. You are powerful. Don’t suffer in silence, isolated from those who can help you. Go on a journey! Life is a journey. Live it to the fullest!

The fact that anyone could recognize on their own how damaging the misuse of forgiveness is, is nothing short of a miracle! Abuse is often to invisible even to the victim, that it can be nearly impossible to recognize for many people. This book is such a welcome relief!!

The Abuse of Forgiveness by Umm Zakiyyah gives many alternative ways or scenarios to help us grasp the misunderstood topic that is forgiveness. It explains terms like forced forgiveness, forgiveness peddlers and unforgiving amongst others. To summarize a bit her thoughts and other professionals in the field that she quoted, one doesn't have to forgive a perpetrator if it helps the victim completely heal. Reading the lyrics of Scars by Hip-Hop artist Khalil Ismael was relate-able in the sense of protecting one's heart. Protect it with all your might. And there are dangers of repressing anger because people deem you too nice or spiritual. For that reason, they expect you to forgive so easily things that leave scars and cause emotional triggers. She starts and ends beautifully with a quote by Cheryl Richardson, "People start to heal the moment they feel heard." A good instructive read overall.

This book is a must read for anyone who has suffered or is suffering from abuse and feels the need to constantly please others.

Excellant book.A very good read.

Brilliant book