The Man's Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the Love Lab About What Women Really Want Hardcover – February 2, 2016

Where do I start?First off, my divorce from the love of my life was finalized this past Friday.And this book was recommended to me by a friendly psychologist. I bought the book, with no real intention to read it. In fact, I have never read many books in my life. Just not my cup of tea.After my divorce was final, and I knew it was over, I decided to give it a read.This book has changed my life.. ultimately for the better, but right now its shattered everything I thought I knew. Everything I thought I knew about myself and more importantly everything I thought I knew about my wife.I never cry, EVER. and half way through this book I found myself crying. Not for myself, but for the hell I put my wife through all these years. I wanted to be her everything, her rock, her sense of joy, someone she could confide in and talk to, someone she could trust. The truth is, I was none of that. Not even close. But in my mind I thought I was perfect, that all her concerns were unfounded and dramatic. I dismissed them without giving it a 2nd thought. And with that, I dismissed who she really was. What she needed from me. I never gave her a reason to trust me.She loved me unconditionally until she couldnt. She begged me to listen to her and I never did. I cry now for her, for the damage I caused when all I wanted to do was love her. Love her my way, not the way she needed to be loved.This book is amazing, the audible is even better. I think this should be required reading for all men. I cant think of all the heartache I couldve prevented if I only knew.Knowing what you did wrong is only a small portion of the battle. My concern now is that if im strong enough to change who ive been my whole life to finally give a woman the love and attention she truly deserves. Which in turn, gives me the love and attention ive always craved and complained for. My ex wife is a Beautiful person in every way, she deserves better and I hope she finds the true happiness I shouldve given her.

I have admired the Gottman's work at their Love Lab for many years. Bits and pieces of their research have stuck in my mind over time. In The Man's Guide to Women They have written a funny, easy to read and digest synopsis of decades of research, which you can take advantage of in a few hours of your time. Some easily implemented skills for all of us endeavoring to be the best that we can be by not repeating the mistakes of the past.As a man, this book resonated with me on so many levels. I have made more than my fair share of mistakes in my time on this planet! Having spent decades protecting others between my military service and my law enforcement career, I was probably too focused on being the stalwart "cave man" protecting his family, to the death if need be, from all enemies.. It's not enough! While as men we are biologically driven by our primal instincts with this protection imperative, times have changed, the threats are different and simply being a do or die defender of the cave doesn't hack it anymore.I'm not saying as men our traditional role is no longer important. If a predator comes through your door at 3 am, you'd better be leading the charge. You'd better be out there trying to provide for the health and safety of your family and putting food on the table. What I am saying is, the perceived threats today are different, generally more subtle and yet still have a significant impact on your spouse. You still need to be there, defending her heart, your kids and your home, just in a somewhat different way.This book resonated with me on so many levels. The last six years with my wife have been amazing and it's not my first rodeo as I mentioned earlier. Why, because I adopted many of the techniques described in the book, through trial and error more than anything else. No brilliant insights on my part. I just banged my head against the wall one too many times. Painful and brutally expensive lessons along the way. Reading the book provided many "Ah Ha, now I get it" moments along the way.Guys, save yourself decades of trial and error. Ladies, this book will open your eyes, not only to the way the knuckle-dragger in your life thinks and reacts, but will give you great insight to yourselves. My wife chose this book as her selection for her monthly ladies book club discussion.

First let me say that I hold John Gottman in the highest esteem. His work in the field of marriage is groundbreaking to say the least, and in my experience nothing short of a godsend. Yet I have to wonder if it is indeed fair to hold this work up to the standard of his previous books, mostly because it is addressed entirely to the male gender. Which is where the presentation goes off the rails in my opinion. As far as the practicality, relevance and accuracy of the information presented in this book, I offer no dispute. It is the tone and presentation that has me disappointed. I have never considered myself an intellectual, but if the neanderthal this book addresses is a run-of-the-mill male humanoid, then I may be an intellectual dweeb after all. Once again, the advice is relevant and putting it into practice will yield positive results; but this book does not do itself any favors by assuming all its readers are mouth-breathing numbskulls with no life skills at all. Worth the read, but it feels like wading through an MTV teen sitcom to get the information.

Really helps you understand a woman's needs and why she has them. I wish I had this 40 years ago. I purchased a copy for my nephew who's dating now too.

This book is a fabulous resource for men (and women). You'll learn a bunch of useful information.