Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting, Codependency and Complex PTSD (4 Books in 1): Workbook and Guide to Overcome Trauma, Toxic ... and Recover from Unhealthy Relationships)

I clicked on this book because I needed some nonfiction in my life. I prefer reading fiction. This book is truly what it says a 4 books in one you go through step-by-step. It defines what each terminology means; narcissistic abuse gaslighting, codependency, & Complex post traumatic stress disorder, and then it gives you so many tools you can use in your daily life to help you heal or to help someone you care about Heal. It was an easy read, I feel Well, informed on these topics. I'm definitely better for reading it.

This book really helped to put a lot of things into a different perspective. Look at things in a different way and understand why I react or feel a certain way at times. Lots of good exercises!

I must begin with affirmation that you are not alone when choosing this book to heal. We are all around you, hidden in plain sight because of the abuses we sustained and now are trying to feel human again. We vivaciously chat you up in cue at the grocery store behind you, making that long wait at a busy time of day pass effortlessly though you may be the first person we have spoken to in days: our abuser is giving us the silent treatment for the umpteenth time over an overblown suggestion received as an attack on their ego. Our eyes are swollen and red when, as our nurse, you lock eyes with us to call us back to the medical examination room for another doctor's visit regarding gastrointestinal issues from the stress of being in fight or flight mode. Why? Because our narcissitic abuser took us out on a shopping spree one day for whatever we want but yelled at us for spending so much money when the billing cycle arrives and they need to actually pay for their lovebombing... Check our phone records: we mostly either have calls from our abuser or outgoing calls to the suicide prevention hotline or to the National Domestic Violence Hotline but "can't" leave... Until we fight for ourselves and educate ourselves, we stay in a fluster, wondering why God put us in this struggle that isn't our fault. Enter Linda Hill's book. Based on my previous readings, Amazon recommended this book to me and BOY was it a Godsend. Do not skip reading this if my hypotheticals struck home. You came to find out if this book will help you, right? Do it - READ THIS unofficial Bible of how to get YOU back. Don't you miss the you you were before the abuse sucked the life out of you? Don't you remember the you that saw through BS and took names because you were above being played? Find that you at the end of these 360 pages with amazing tools and tons of self-work workbook exercises. It will be admittedly tough to face the pain and stare it down to get rid of it, but it is worth it! Linda writes from the heart and gives you the love back that you need as you trudge through this all. Love yourself and grab this book. Your healed self will thank you. Remember, as she says, "It is not a sprint but a marathon" to heal from your traumas, but you have to start somewhere. And finally, THANK YOU, LINDA! I loved this book series!

I was having trouble at my job and kept running into the conclusion there is a narcissist undermining me. I have a psychology degree but couldn’t find the narcissist. So I bought this and it helped me figure out who and where. I found 5 different types and the one that was undermining me was my direct assigned supervisor. She was the discreet type who sabotaged me with gossip and 4 others including myself. I had absorbed so much toxicity from the others so much I found myself becoming one and using the strategies to deal with them helped me gather some defensive tactics to get evidence that if they tried to get me into trouble I could have a chance to prove that I was undermined. It worked I had a panic attack at work because of the stress and anxiety from being in such a toxic environment with a weak position but because of this book I had mounted enough evidence to fight against the problems that they caused. I found social media habits of perpetrators and employing the strategies I entrapped them with their own words. I screenshot everything and baited them to test behaviors and because of the lies they wrote to undermine me I have everything to show the truth. The book is key to understanding the types and the nature of these behaviors I am able to fight back I may still have to deal with the consequences but they will be exposed and after that they will try again on someone else but when they do it will not allow them to remain either. The book has a good foundation for understanding the types but the strategies are not as informative as it should be. My psychology degree supplemented that and the outcome was better than the book basic one’s. I didn’t even think I could become a narcissist because of being surrounded by them but yes you can and I can’t believe how much of myself I lost. The book was great and one thing it doesn’t tell you is if the gossip is from more than five years old from someone else who was a victim listen. Then test the habit I did and nearly every test I baited them with was accurate. Narcissistic people have to prompt if you can identify the prompt test to see if they are doing the behavior and it worked surprisingly well. If the gossip is not older than 5 years then it is likely nothing but I would have never seen the signs without this book. The co-dependency I had was the narcissist was supposed to train me for my job and instead they didn’t and tried to sabotage me. But I was to experienced to fail and with 5 months of training I had the ability to overcome the deficiency. So they had to do it the hard way and use my disability as a way to manipulate the situation and went to far. They removed my work accommodations so that caused me to take sick days and then they labeled me as lazy and incompetent and I bought the book to catch them and I did. I can’t recommend this book enough but it’s worth reading because it has the best information to understand how many different types and methods. Remember a narcissist has to look and believe they are magnanimous and kind so if you can manipulate it to make them look like that they have the belief you are complacent. This is how I caught them acting stupid when they are clearly trying to make you look bad and baiting them into doing their undermining behavior.

This is a comprehensive guide to recovery from narcissistic abuse, codependency, gaslighting and PTSD. Using accessible, layperson’s language, Ms. Hill deftly explores the myriad psychological connections between these debilitating conditions. In the Introduction, she explains how all of these are routed in narcissistic personality disorder. The book is divided into four smaller workbooks, each with its own specific focus: Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting, Codependency and PTSD. All four workbooks begin by describing the symptoms and causes of the subject condition. Next, Ms. Hill shows readers how to recognize narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, codependency and PTSD in the context of their everyday lives. We can encounter this type of aberrant behavior in both the professional and private spheres. Unfortunately, we don’t always realize when these manipulative tactics are being used. Women, in particular, are often brought up to be “polite” and “get along,” a scenario which can cause us to overlook red flags in our relationships. I appreciate the fact that this book enables readers to name the abuse for what it is, call it out – and take a stand against it. Most importantly, Ms. Hill’s workbooks provide invaluable tools for overcoming narcissistic abuse – and the codependency/PTSD that it invariably causes. Techniques such as establishing boundaries, self-care and letting go of shame and guilt are shown to be extremely useful. Readers also learn how to heal their inner child. Essentially, this book teaches us how to bolster our confidence and sense of self. We learn that we have a right to be free of narcissism. The book gives us the strength we need to face the individuals attempting to manipulate us and stop the abuse from occurring. This, in turn, reduces feelings of codependency and PTSD. Finally, each workbook provides exercises for readers to use to journal their feelings and practice their skills. Ms. Hill’s 4-in-One workbook was an extremely meaningful read for me. I have struggled with narcissistic abuse in my own life – and gaslighting is something that most of us have experienced in recent years. I discovered many useful tips for overcoming manipulative people. My key learning: I deserve to defend myself against narcissists and gaslighting, thereby protecting myself from codependency and PTSD. More than anything, this title has taught me about self-empowerment. I’m worth it – and so are you!

Very informative and well structured layout. There are several spelling and grammar errors riddling the book. (Some I started to correct , but stopped when it began to be excessive) But I must say, I do enjoy the in depth explanation on the differences between manipulating and gaslighting, the design of the book into 4 main topics covered and the detail of finding the “why”. It’s nice to find no victim blaming and a humanizing approach to victims. I fist read this book with booksprout for free. But found it rather helpful so I ended up purchasing a copy as well.

This one book contains detailed descriptions on 4 of the major traumas inflicting many of us today, that are currently playing out in our lives, our homes, workplaces and our society at large. Before I read this, I thought I knew quite a bit about these issues already... but, wow what an eye opener!!! That alone makes this book a worthwhile investment. The best part is how the author then gives the reader all-encompassing frameworks to use for honest to goodness paths of self-healing, that really do support those who want step by step guidance and encouragement. Seeking appropriate professional support is also detailed in here. It is a big book, and so are the many benefits of reading it and applying it, even with "baby steps" if that's all that is possible at first. Yes, read it. I am benefitting from it. Maybe you can too, and also help other people in your life who would find it helpful to be introduced to this knowledge, backed up with genuine, possible pathways to getting "help" that matters and makes a difference. Change begins with us...

I just received the book last evening and I am already on page 50 I can't seem to put the book down. I have read many self-help books over the years and they are just nonsense saying the same five things over and over again but this book is everything it was promised to be so far I know a lot of things already but I have learned so much from reading the beginning of this book. I have begun highlighting very important points of reference for me to look back on when I am feeling weak again. Update: I have read this entire book front to back and I found it fascinating. Let's book has helped me so much to realize that I knew I was right all along and I was not crazy. I highlighted important facts throughout the entire book and plan on keeping this to look back on. The fourth chapter of the book is one that I'm not sure totally pertains to me but I'm keeping an open mind that it probably does. I will definitely read future books from this author! I highly recommend this book to anybody who has recently gotten out of a scary dangerous relationship or somebody who thinks they are in one.

- understand narcissism - understand codependency - understand C-PTSD Gives you the whole map of toxic relationships, even those you were not aware of.

Highly recommended! The book is informative, clear to understand, and written with a kind tone of voice. You feel completely supported and encouraged to make the necessary changes needed for your well-being. Linda even gives advice on what to do after reading this book to continue to improve your mental health.

Helps you understand the mind of a narcissist, whether it’s a friend, foe, coworker or family. Helps make the experience more objective so you don’t take this inga to heart, because it isn’t you, it’s them. Having extra red flags to keep an eye on and practical strategies to communicate if you feel as if you are being railroaded verbally.

This book is clear and precise, giving me so much relief from anguish as it explains how textbook the harmful behaviors are. Before I read it I felt confused and alone in my pain. Now I understand what I am going through is common and there are answers out there. A wonderful tool for my toolbox as I continue on my path of healing, self love and acceptance. Thank you!

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