Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Great Book. Helps with asking the correct questions.

Spectacular book I love it

This is a brilliant book. Really useful scenarios and research that makes you reflect on your relationship. A must buy for anyone in or contemplating a relationship.

from the first pages i opened I realised i bought the wrong book….. this looks like its more directed to people already coupled and how to keep the relationship going healthy, not 8 dates that youre having with someone you just met. If thats the case you have to not take the book literally and apply it to yourself as it has very old school cringy advices

Read this book for a book club, and it’s not too long, very practical, and an emotional intelligence book that’s fun to read. It made me think a lot about how. I cherish all relationships in my life (or don’t and why)

Wow voy a la mitad del libro y está buenísimo porque te explican los estudios que le han hecho a varias personas referente a los aromas , quien tiende ser más promiscuo como pareja y no te conviene o cómo comunicarte de nuevo con tu pareja, no no no les juro que es el mejor libro que me he comprado es una joya que todos los que tenemos una relación debemos leer

I really enjoyed this book. For every book, no matter how great, there's always critics or things that don't appeal to some. I'm glad I didn't let those opinions stop me from purchasing this.Even prior to beginning a new relationship recently (my first one in several years after taking time for introspection and personal growth), I've been heavily interested in psychology, esp on relationships/sex. I've read many books on the subject, including at least one other by John Gottman, and still found this book well worth the read. It covers what I believe really are the key conversations that can make or break a healthy, happy, satisfying relationship, and provides a great variety of examples and scientific research for each area of focus. There's short exercises that help individuals get thinking about the topics at a deeper personal level prior to each date which helps make the dates themselves more productive and connective. There's also great instructions and tips, not just on how to keep each conversation positive, healthy, and even fun, but also how to communicate effectively in general. Many are simple things that I'm sure we've all heard at some point—active listening by making eye contact, rephrasing back, and asking questions; keeping an open, non-judging mindset; being kind and understanding to each other; etc—but are summarized together very succinctly and efficiently. The dates themselves (i.e. the topics of focus) are, imo, very thoughtfully laid out as far as order and build well. For example, date 1 begins with Trust & Commitment, a foundation that is necessary in order to make the following dates that cover more sensitive subjects (such as money/work and sex) successful.Additional highly important key points to happy relationships are emphasized throughout the book, such as cherishing each other, showing kindness, and focusing on positive, which align perfectly with my own experience and other research, yet are often overlooked or greatly undervalued by most couples. I appreciated this. I also appreciated that it was stated (and backed with examples/research) that aside from a few specific aspects (such as wanting children or not), differences in couples, such as interests and certain beliefs, does not corelate with level of happiness and satisfaction, and WHY, as well as tips on HOW to connect in these situations. This has been a fear of mine in my own relatively new relationship that is otherwise the happiest, healthiest one I've ever been in and truly see being a lifelong partnership; so I felt so grateful to read this.I loved that the authors also included small actions that can be immediately implimented. Kissing each other goodbye, finding small ways to show appreciation, committing to a dedicated time to be with each other each week, etc. Again, this is likely not new info for anyone who's read other relationship books but I still found it very well said and still found new takeaways in each chapter.I could go on. Highly recommend this book. Whether you're single, newly relationed, or have been together for years, I think everyone could gain something from this book.

Um dos melhores livros sobre relacionamento que você vai encontrar no mercado. Ele não é apenas teórico e prático, ele lhe permite viver e experimentar os exercícios. Eu fiz um pequeno teste, apliquei durante 8 semanas todas as técnicas e meus clientes adoraram, perceberam muitas mudanças no casamento. Não satisfeito eu fui além, fiz 8 lives sobre o livro e meus seguidores trouxeram resultados positivos sobre a aplicação das ferramentas.É uma leitura simples, tranquila e que lhe permite ter muitas reflexões, ainda mais se você ler junto do seu parceiro ou parceira, apliquei boa parte das coisas que aprendi e isso tem ajudado na construção de um lar mais tranquilo, mais vivo, mais amoroso.

This is my first time reading a relationship advice book. I love how much this book is centered around not just learning but doing. Each chapter has a planned date with discussion questions to challenge you and your partner to learn from everything you've read in that chapter.Really insightful read on communication, trust, and intimacy. Would highly recommend for people in a long term relationship or new relationships wanting to take their relationship to the next level or deepen there connection. There comes a moment you know everything about one another, try keeping the conversation going. That’s the hard part. Book gave me a few tips that I can keep re-using.