The Man's Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the Love Lab About What Women Really Want Hardcover – February 2, 2016

I read this book 9 years too late. As I’m going through a divorce right now, this book keyed all the things I did wrong that could have kept my wife trusting, secure, and loving me. Source, all the things I did wrong my wife told me and all those things are reminiscent of a “Zero” in this book.If you are looking to start dating, are early in a relationship, or are in a failed one like mine, I highly encourage you to pick up this book.Honestly, it should be a prerequisite for all men before starting a relationship.Lastly, this book is super easy to read. I’m a slow reader and I knocked it out in 2 days. Only 194 pages.

Where do I start?First off, my divorce from the love of my life was finalized this past Friday.And this book was recommended to me by a friendly psychologist. I bought the book, with no real intention to read it. In fact, I have never read many books in my life. Just not my cup of tea.After my divorce was final, and I knew it was over, I decided to give it a read.This book has changed my life.. ultimately for the better, but right now its shattered everything I thought I knew. Everything I thought I knew about myself and more importantly everything I thought I knew about my wife.I never cry, EVER. and half way through this book I found myself crying. Not for myself, but for the hell I put my wife through all these years. I wanted to be her everything, her rock, her sense of joy, someone she could confide in and talk to, someone she could trust. The truth is, I was none of that. Not even close. But in my mind I thought I was perfect, that all her concerns were unfounded and dramatic. I dismissed them without giving it a 2nd thought. And with that, I dismissed who she really was. What she needed from me. I never gave her a reason to trust me.She loved me unconditionally until she couldnt. She begged me to listen to her and I never did. I cry now for her, for the damage I caused when all I wanted to do was love her. Love her my way, not the way she needed to be loved.This book is amazing, the audible is even better. I think this should be required reading for all men. I cant think of all the heartache I couldve prevented if I only knew.Knowing what you did wrong is only a small portion of the battle. My concern now is that if im strong enough to change who ive been my whole life to finally give a woman the love and attention she truly deserves. Which in turn, gives me the love and attention ive always craved and complained for. My ex wife is a Beautiful person in every way, she deserves better and I hope she finds the true happiness I shouldve given her.

First let me say that I hold John Gottman in the highest esteem. His work in the field of marriage is groundbreaking to say the least, and in my experience nothing short of a godsend. Yet I have to wonder if it is indeed fair to hold this work up to the standard of his previous books, mostly because it is addressed entirely to the male gender. Which is where the presentation goes off the rails in my opinion. As far as the practicality, relevance and accuracy of the information presented in this book, I offer no dispute. It is the tone and presentation that has me disappointed. I have never considered myself an intellectual, but if the neanderthal this book addresses is a run-of-the-mill male humanoid, then I may be an intellectual dweeb after all. Once again, the advice is relevant and putting it into practice will yield positive results; but this book does not do itself any favors by assuming all its readers are mouth-breathing numbskulls with no life skills at all. Worth the read, but it feels like wading through an MTV teen sitcom to get the information.

my wife loves me reading this book. I have only read to page 20 and simply practicing the ATTUNE process I learned from this book has resulted in noticeably greater harmony between us.AttendTurn TowardUnderstandNondefensively listenEmpathize

One should not be allowed to marry and have kids without passing an exam on this book.Especially important for fathers who want the best possible life for their kids. Lots of common sense.

I couldn’t get him to read it, but I did. Fantastic book for when you’re ready to get to the point. Highly recommend.

I felt like this book had some good insights but I feel like because it's based on science rather than experience, it doesn't help the reader connect to the ENERGY of the principles.

Really helps you understand a woman's needs and why she has them. I wish I had this 40 years ago. I purchased a copy for my nephew who's dating now too.