Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare MP3 CD – Audiobook, February 7, 2017

Hello Healing Seekers,It took a year to write an honest review of this book and what it did for me.This book has literally given me back my life. Before reading it I was spiritually dying and I was numb and confused.I was in way too much pain to fully understand and express the fullest extent of my pain to anyone. I was being abused by my narcissistic mother in law. All my in laws and my own family as well are toxic narcissists. This narcissistic abuse went on without my permission for ten years; yes, a decade. I cringe thinking about how much of my life I lost being touched by narcissistic evil.I live in a part of the south that is still very backwards. They are racist in their mentality and attitudes. However we have been lucky to be living in a beautiful southern town that is a not as narcissistic as the surrounding citiesMy racist, toxic and narcissistic in-laws tried to break me. They did everything in their power to undermine mypositive and happy existence. They sabotaged my beautiful wedding day, all of my accomplishments, my homes,my businesses, my joy, and honestly my very existence.I have always know that my in-laws were unhealthy and toxic folks, however I did not understand the darkness and evil that narcissistic people carry. They do everything in their power to destroy you and then "become you" at the same time. I have lived in many states and countries and I have endured some very difficult life challenges in my life, including losing my father to murder, however being a victim of this narcissistic abuse by my in-laws pales in comparison to the hurt, the sadness, the emptiness, the loneliness and the devastation of my self identity and my soul. It has been more painful than I am willing to admit.I got very tired of defending myself against my narcissistic mother in-law's silent, covert and at times overt narcisstic attacks on my well being and on my life. One day I fell to my knees in my living room and wept and asked God to deliver me from this evil and toxic abuse. I asked God to send me some divine intervention. A miracle or healing that I would cause me to stop having mild panic attacks when my mother in law sent her Flying Monkeys to do her abusive attacks on me and my husband. My sister in-law demanded to visit with news that she was pregnant on December 28th 2018. This came after not being close to them for many years. Suddenly she wants to connect with us, really ?It made sense that this little flying monkey wanted to boast and rub her pregnancy in my face, knowing that we have been trying to get pregnant for years without success.I was infuriated and very upset to the point that I had a mild panick attack. I was forced to dig deeper and see why I am having these strong feelings. I immediately knew in that moment siting on the floor that I had to seek some help for the anxiety they have been causing me for the last ten years. I questioned consellors in the area to see if they could help, but due to their bias and backwards attitude towards anyone that is different than them and their views they could not help. I was forced to revisit my childhood as an abused and helpless little girl who sought comfort and healing by reading lots of books. As I regained my composure, got up off the floor and sat cuddled in my favoritechair as I starting searching for helpful and healing books for the narcissistic abuse that I was experiencing.And there it was.Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself Paperback – July 29, 2016 by Shahida ArabiAfter I placed several books in my cart I still debated if this anxiety that I was experiencing was real or my fault or if I should I even get these books. Immediately felt a sense of calm as I reaffirmed that I deserved to feel better That I deserved happiness and joy and restoration of myself, my true self. I was not going to stay a victim of narssissistic abuse anymore. I said to myself not another day, hour or minute. My husband walked into the room and I told him that I was going to get these books to try to heal my wounds and he said ok I will get them for you right now. That was truly the first time in a long time that I felt ok again in my skin. I intutively knew that this was going to be the start of my healing from Narcissistic abuse by my In-laws and toxic people.Five months later I have read three booksBecoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself Paperback – July 29, 2016 by Shahida ArabiI have also read Psychopath Free (Expanded Edition): Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People Paperback – September 1, 2015 by Jackson MacKenzie (Author) I will leave reviews on this book soonWhole Again: Healing Your Heart and Rediscovering Your True Self After Toxic Relationships and Emotional Abuse Paperback – January 8, 2019 by Jackson MacKenzie (Author)I will leave a review on this book soon.In the five months since reading Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself Paperback – July 29, 2016 by Shahida ArabiI have become enlightened about Narcissist and their evil tacticsI walk away much faster when I see Narcissist patterns in anyoneI am ruminating alot less,I feel more peaceful in my spiritI feel more present in my lifeI am not obessing about my narcissitic in laws and toxic people as much.I feel much more connected to my husband; more present.I look forward to small treats and accomplishmentsI am enjoying my Chai Latte so much more nowI have stopped obessing about moving out of state, back to NYC to get away from the narcsI have stopped obessively working as a way to cope with the narcissist abuseI really enjoy my quiet time again, like reading my books and getting educated on toxic people, so I can protect myself against their toxic and harmful negativityI sleep so much better. I also use hemp seed oil to help with my chronic anxiety and it works so very well for me.I have been making my mental health my priority.We now live by the rule NO CONTACT NO SUPPLY WITH NARCSI am feeling so very good about life again. It is a miracle that one book, Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself Paperback – July 29, 2016 by Shahida Arabi could change your life and your relationship with yourself and such offer guidance. It is a compass to understanding narcissistic abuse.Finally, I was slowly dying and dimming my own light as a way not to trigger the Narcissict abusive in-laws and toxic folks in our community. Shahida Arabi has given me the permission to heal by providing a light where I lived in the darkness of Narcissist Abuse. She reached out and with her fierce, bold and courageous truth she gave me water I was thristy for. I am no longer confused and overwhelmed. I now no longer feel so much toxic shame all the time.Shahida Arabi may you always be healthy, courageous and fierce and may God give you the strength to always do your best work. I am so very proud of you and all the work your are doing on behalf of all the victims of Narcissictic Abuse.God bless you and thank you for giving me the lesson and the compass to get on with my life after being a abused by narcissicts for a decade.Warm regardsGail H

This is not the first book I have read on NPD. I wish this would have been the very first book I read, instead. It would have saved me of much headache and heartache. I am not finished reading this book, but I had to come in here and provide a review already. Just from the very first pages, this book has been able to help me understand my own personal situation with the narcissist in my life. A book that finally says it clearly the way it is and with sounded advise, not just for professionals in the field, but for the regular folk who has unfortunately been the victim of narcissist abuse. Because we have to call it for what it is: Abuse. I wish the courts in this country would be given this book and more education on this matter, especially when there are children involved. Courts force you to share custody with the narcissist parent when children and the former spouse should actually be allowed to keep contact to a minimum or no contact at all. In this particular case, exposure to the narcissist is not really a good idea for developing spirits and minds. Anybody who knows anything about NPD will tell you that the best thing to do is to go no contact. Other books suggest to remother the narcissist or do this or that. It does not work with these individuals because in their minds, they are always right and the whole world is conspiring against them. That's the main reason why neither the courts, nor supposed trained professionals can provide a diagnostic of NPD for those individuals because they can put a great act together for the whole world to see. By the time you realize what you're dealing with, you're already caught in their web of lies and deceive. Shahida Arabi explains all of this very clearly, in a way that anybody can understand. She has included clear examples of situations that are the "norm" for those suffering from this abuse. Anybody can see the scars left by violent physical abuse, but when it comes to emotional abuse, it is very difficult to prove in court or even to those who may be close to the victim. Shahida explains all the tools that a narcissist will use to control those around him or her. She shares her own personal and professional experience, as well as those of victims who have entrusted her with their own experience. Some reviews say that she's a bit repetitive at times. I have noticed that while reading the book. But believe me, repetition can be good to make some points, especially after you have been a victim yourself. Some things need to be repeated more than once because you have been gaslighted so much that you have trouble discerning reality from fog and you keep doubting yourself after so much abuse of this kind.For what my own personal opinion might be worth, and from the view point of someone who has suffered the abuse of a narcissist, this book is a must-read. If you're lost and you don't know where to go, you feel isolated and your gut feeling is telling you that something has to change and you don't know who to trust or where to go for help, start with this book. It will help you understand your own situation, why the narcissist in your life treats you kindly one moment to completely ignore you or put you down the next; why that person accuses you of being controlling when you feel you have absolutely no control over your life and you feel that he or she is actually controlling you, instead; you will understand where did that loving, caring, compassionate person of the early stages of your relationship has gone and why you might be now dealing with someone who doesn't even resemble that soulmate of yours; and more. I love the fact that she's been there and she's done her hard work to understand this pathology not only from a victim's stance, but from a professional point of view.I also got the Kindle version since it is free when you buy the book and I had absolutely no problems downloading it. I had noticed a few slight changes from the paper to the electronic version (I'm guessing one is a newer edition, not sure why there're these slight differences, but it seems to just be an editing thing.) But there are minimal and it doesn't affect. I love that I can read the book on my tablet or from the paper copy with no problems.I think I said enough. I could go on talking about it, but I will let the book speak for itself. Read the sneak-preview in here. If you're a victim, I'm sure you'll identify yourself even in those few pages. That's what happened to me. Only a victim can understand what I mean.

Highly educated author; Relevant Narcissist Cluster B personality disorder traits and Gaslighting and Gray Rock behaviors to look for. This book can be useful in Attorney client case study. Effective tool. A must read for Strong Anti-Victim stance advice. Thank you for your Knowledge and support!Highly recommended Reading to prevent abuse by tricksters!

This book is a great resource in my healing journey and recovery. I enjoyed the empathy of the author’s experience with these abusive people. So much information is shared in this book!

We have been married for 56 years. Over the years we have seen 4 different psychologists. These couples session have been initiated by my wife. I always felt that I was suffering from mild spousal abuse. One therapist told me "it FEELS like spousal abuse". When I corrected some of her small lies the therapist would state that it is "her perception of reality and she is filling the gaps in the story".Our daughter in her teens was having issues with mother. About 20 years ago she told me that the school councillor told her to read a book "How to live with a narcissistic mother".This stimulated me to read a few books and I was convinced that my wife a mild narcissist. My wife found that word very offensive and the psychologist used the term "extreme extrovert"My wife has always been analyzing family members in our country psychologically after a visit there. She has no training in psychology but does watch Dr Phil regularly. In the past she used to watch Judge Judy.I was extremely busy in my profession. I am hyperfocused and had a successful career. Our children have diagnosed me as ADHD partly in jest. I replied that I might have a touch of Aspergism! My wife has now become hung up on Aspergism. During a recent conflagration which probably was "narcissist rage" she got her friend search for psychologists specializing Aspergers syndrome and she wanted me to make an appointment. I did an on-line test and I am convinced that I do not have Aspergers.I read a book by Debbie Mirza and for the first time heard about COVERT narscissm. The book does not have much depth. I then found this book "Arabi, Shahida. Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare"Reading this book was a Eureka moment. I come from a neuroscience background reading the it was like reading a thesis. This book has been incredibly helpful in understanding my wife's condition. I am adopting some techniques to reduce conflicts after reading the book. I am looking for a therapist who has special expertise in covert narscissm and see him/her single therapy to guide me on how to minimize future conflict. Couples therapy is likely to be a waste and she hates the word narscisst. During couples session in the past she would talk excessively and this left me frustrated. Recently she has been harping on how I did not support her when she had issues my sister in our mother country 52 years ago. Couples therapy is a lost cause. I turned 80 a few months and I want to spend the next 10-15 years of my remaining life with the least amount of stress. Giving her the silent treatment is having some beneficial effects. This book has been God sent.

Is somebody devaluing your every move, but you didn’t manage to keep your distance? Read this book and your life will change - for the better!

It provides a lot of insight into relationships with narcissistic people. It also explains a lot of things you would have gone through in such toxic relationship and gives guidance to recover from it.

If you are an abuse survivor, if you are some one who doesn't know what's happening with you in your one sided relationships...... Read this book, liberate yourself and see the wonders happen...

Het boek der herkenning voor mij. Als je halverwege bent, kun je het eigenlijk wel wegleggen. Daarna volgt vooral herhaling van het 1e deel. Daar is natuurlijk wel een goede reden voor.Als je beschadigt bent door een narcist, is het heel goed en nodig er steeds aan herinnert te worden hoe doortrapt dat iedere keer weer gebeurd. Zodat je niet toch weer de fout in gaat bij de narcist, want jij voelt wel wat de narcist niet voelt. Zodat je niet toch weer aan jezelf gaat twijfelen. De herhaling dient vooral om dat te blijven beseffen en accepteren.Dit boek krijgt her en der ook wat kritiek. De schrijfster is niet academisch geschoold (geen MSc/psycholoog of ander labeltje) maar ervaringsdeskundige.Dat maakt haar voor mij juist wel de auteur om te lezen.Dit boek is in mijn ogen een standaardwerk voor iedereen die met een narcist te maken heeft (gehad). Lees dit boek.